Two scoops of sugar

Previously, I have proposed the question "What is two scoops of sugar in coffee or tea?"

I had an intense, but brief conversation this weekend about the matters of life. The conversation was a bit unexpected, but reminded me of the question that I once proposed to anyone who may have come across my blog.

What few people probably recognize about me is that I often contemplate philosophical matters, which we all do from time to time. Some time ago I was considering the communication of feelings.

On occasion, I am suspect of one's communication of feelings, because depending on the tone, the situation, and the person; the speaking of "I love you" seems to be callous, calculated, and violent. Or maybe I have a fear that my own articulation of "I love you", or "I care about you", or even "I am thinking about you" will sound callous, calculated, and violent.

Whatever it is, my preference for my own the communication of such feelings and the way such feelings are communicated to me are through non-verbal media. For me, the way a woman should express her love for me or even if it's not love, but admiration and interest is to pay attention to those small, mundane preferences I have. As such, two scoops of sugar in my coffee would tell me more about how the person feels toward me than what I may correctly or incorrectly perceive as callous and cold verbal expression of love.

I have noticed other people also prefer two scoops of sugar in their coffee or tea and I learn these things, because if it is her preference, then it's important to me. Of course, learning how someone prefers her coffee is not the only idea as the best possible expression of love, admiration, or whatever, but I like this example, because if you wake up and are making your girlfriend, wife, or whatever coffee in the morning before she wakes up you are showing her that you care about those mundane things she prefers. Can there be a greater expression of love than making her the perfect cup of coffee?